Elizabeth

Using active listening through a spat is the first move you can take to mitigate the situation and crack whatever problems have surfaced. Realize, nonetheless, that when people feel strongly about an issue, their emotions will impact their ability to correspond and listen. It is imperative therefore to utilize a blend of active and reflective listening skills. Here are five methods you can use to defuse conflicts and enhance effective communication. Condemn the issue or behavior, not the person. By dealing with the issue or the behavior, you evade attacking the other person. If you are arguing with your teen about a curfew, stick to the issue of the curfew or to his actions of breaching curfew. Don t scour up all of his past blunders or chastise him a crazy kid who can t do anything right. That is attacking the person. It will harm his self-esteem and will only create barriers. Listen to what he has to share and keep him on track if he wanders from the issue. Persist with active listening even if he other person does not. Your...

Trying to lose weight on a diet is like trying to get somewhere riding a stationary bike, it s not going to happen. It seems like a silly thing to say but eating a certain amount isn t the culprit to weight gain. If you think about it, when you diet you are starving yourself in some way, no matter which diet you follow. And most diets people aren t planning on staying with for the rest of their lives. It s dieting until the weight loss has been achieved and then back to normal eating. Well that is not going to work. You only take in so many calories, or eat only certain foods when you diet. Once you go back to eating normal, you re going to gain back because your body can t handle the foods it has been deprived while you were dieting. The body is designed to work while eating just about everything there is. It wouldn t have survived for as many years as it has if that wasn t the case. So trying to change your habits to get rid of unwanted weight and then going back to normal defeats the purpose. It takes a lifestyle change to...

If you re an old soul you will undoubtedly be giving, caring loving and compassionate - all wonderful attributes that we are taught are the signs of a developed person who cares for others, and the actions that we take that may affect others. The key signs of an old soul; Giving and caring often putting others first Had a difficult romantic life often with much pain and disappointment More than likely had a soulmate relationship Things just seem to happen to you and around you, often becoming very dramatic through the seemingly extreme reactions of others Events repeat themselves Have trouble connecting with your family Somehow know you re different Have some psychic intuition and just knowing things Find that you have deeper emotions and passions than most people People have extreme reactions to you - some just adore you and some seem to really dislike you yet you behave the same to everyone Have an inner creative passion Suffer lots of jealousy Often perceived wrongly Feel your don t have much free will, like your life is...

Having a low self esteem can arise for many and complex reasons, and different causes may require different remedies. However, there are some common themes amongst those who suffer from a lack of self esteem, and alongside them come some partial solutions which, when brought together, may help you to start increasing your self regard. Once you start that process, it can then become a much easier task to eliminate your low self esteem altogether. It can sometimes be very difficult to view yourself in a detached and critical way, without emotion intervening, and that is especially so if your self esteem is not at a tolerable level. However, it can be a great help if you can devote some initial time in self examination, and to find if there is a pattern to your feelings. If you can pinpoint those moments when your esteem is, in your eyes, at its lowest, and also at its highest, you will probably find some clues as to how you may improve the way you feel. Something very important to remember is that, although you may not think too...

How to quit smoking is not only a million dollar question, it is a question affecting millions and millions and their number is increasing day by day. The number of surveys conducted on smoking, small and big, by local bodies, governmental and non-governmental organizations are a legion. But are these well-intentioned efforts helping to curb the addiction of smoking. The answer, unfortunately, is in the negative and the tobacco lobby is busy with their expansion plans. Is there a happy smoker. May be a rare one. More than 80 of the smokers population, who formed part of the authentic survey, gave a straightforward answer that they wished to quit smoking. It is, therefore, appropriate to conclude that the majority of the remaining 20 smokers, require some reasoning and pressure to bring them to the right track. What it is that latent in the tobacco, which holds powerful sway over these unfortunate millions. It is an innocent looking eight letter word- nicotine. The more we try to understand it, the more it exhibits its enormous...